How to Prepare Your Wedding Vows
It’s something you shouldn’t leave until the last minute! Wedding vows are an integral part of the marriage ceremony, and having a prepared wedding vow can make the difference in having a good wedding, and having your partner bawl their eyes out from the beautiful words you professed just before the all important “I do’s.”
Get out the pen and paper because note taking is highly recommended! Here are some ways you can prepare your wedding vow to make it truly meaningful to you and your partner for a long and healthy marriage.
Have Them Ready 3 Weeks Ahead
It’s important you get a head start for your wedding vows, as they signify why you’re getting married and what you promise to your partner for your marriage.
It will also be pretty helpful to have them done three weeks before the wedding in case you need to make any last minute revisions or if you need to do some additional rehearsing to be sure you can say your wedding vows with confidence.
Announcing Your Love
When it comes to writing the wedding vows, you’ll want to keep a general structure of what you want to say. If you aren’t sure how to tackle what to say in your wedding vows, be sure to accomplish these three things:
Announce Your Love
Share Your Personal Story
Make Promises To Your Partner
Announcing your love can be a sentence or two declaring your love to your partner (the reason why you’re getting married in the first place)! If you’re a wordsmith, you can go all out with the colorful language about your love for your partner, and if you want to keep it simple then a straightforward declaration of love is exactly what you’ll want to say! “I love you,” is a good place to start, then write down all the ways that love means to you.
Sharing The Personal Story
When you share your personal story about your relationship, you can get super creative! Think about your past together, how you met, how you’ve built your relationship up with one another, all the good and bad times you’ve been through, and all the things you are looking forward to doing in the future with your partner as a married couple.
You don’t have to get into too many details, especially if there are any private moments that you would both otherwise prefer staying private! Just be sure you spend a little bit of time expressing what your relationship means to you, and how your life has been, is, and will be with your partner in it.
Making Promises You Aim To Keep
After sharing your personal story with your partner, now is the time to make the vows themselves. Write down a few promises you intend to keep with and for your partner for your marriage. You can be as general or as specific as you’d like, as long as you can say them without reservation to your partner.
Not sure what promises you want to make? Write down a few keywords to help you get started. Words like:
And then explore what steps you can take to make yourself as good as you can be to your partner as a spouse. You’ll know when you’ve written down the right promises the moment you start smiling when you envision yourself saying them out loud on your wedding day.
Revise, Revise, Revise, and then Practice!
Once you have a rough draft of your wedding vows, it’s time to go back and revise! A good practice to make is to remove any unnecessary words (or even sentences) from your vows to make them as concise and easy-to-read as possible. This will make your practice much easier and will make your wedding vows keep the essentials of what you want to say.
It’s ideal for you to continually practice until you can say your wedding vows by memory. One way to help with this is to write them down continually as you revise them until you’ve come up with a final version.
Say Your Vows with Confidence
After you’ve come up with a final version, have someone else listen in on your wedding vows! Remember it’s important to rehearse by actually saying the words out loud, and a second pair of eyes and ears will help you find out what phrases work and what phrases need some finishing touches.
Remember to say your vows slowly and with confidence. Your thoughts run faster than your mouth, so what you may think sounds good in your head may sound fast out of your mouth.
One more tip with wedding vows: Make sure you and your partner agree with a basic format of what you will be saying to one another, whether it’s humorous, intimate, or incredibly wordy. But don’t let your soon-to-be spouse actually know what you’ll be saying! Keep it a surprise for your wedding day.
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